The follow-up basically said, "I hope my email didn't sound mean, I was just having a bad day."
I think all those CAPS and explanation points said otherwise!!!!!!!
I'm a huge fan of email. HUGE! It makes my life so much easier. But, I'm very careful when I email. I realize, email does not communicate my voice inflection. Or my tone. Plus, when writing in all CAPS, it can appear as if you were shouting. All CAPS and lots of explanation points, can appear like you are shouting very LOUDLY!!!!!
Thanks for all the emails and notes yesterday. A good friend emailed me this. It's written by a pastor addressing his temptation to 'draw blood with his keyboard' It's great! I've copied a pasted a few highlights.
1) Email turns cowards into bullies. There are things that I’ll say in an email- tough things, blunt things, “Dirty-Harry-Go-Ahead-Make-My-Day-Do-You-Feel-Lucky-Punk” things that I would NEVER say to a person face-to-face. Hey- here’s a thought- since I wouldn’t say them directly to the person, what gives me the right to email them? The truth is that I’m a coward, and I’ve let the magic of email turn me into a bully.
2) You can only ‘one-dimensionalize’ another person in an email. Because the person who has wronged you is not there when you write an email, he becomes a one dimensional figure. He’s the bad guy in the black hat who has just plain hurt you. He is not a real person who’s looking at you telling you about his real feelings. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve lambasted a person who didn’t even really exist- only in my mind.
3) In the rare case of repentance, the person who wronged you can’t seek your forgiveness immediately. Every once in a while my hastily written emails have actually helped someone see their sin, and they repent (Note: only because God’s grace superseded my fleshly email). But what happens when a person reads your angrily written email on his Blackberry while he’s at work? He may have seven hours left in his day before he can call you and ask for your forgiveness. That is just a horrible place to put someone. A face-to-face meeting allows an immediate opportunity to express repentance.
The Nutella recipe is here . It's meant to make hot chocolate.However, I just stir a small spoon in my coffee. Heavenly!