anyway, my response to bossypants; stop being bossy, be a good friend, mind your own business and there's no such thing as a bucket dipper.
well, slap me down and call me shorty, because there's a book about ALL about bucket dippers. and the entire fourth grade is reading it.
enjoy a summary of the theory... and i just happened to have summer pictures to illustrate the story.
Each one of us has an invisible bucket.
It is constantly emptied or filled, depending on what others say or do to us.
When our bucket is full, we feel great.
When it is empty, we feel awful.
Each of us has an invisible dipper.
When we use that dipper to fill other people's buckets
by saying or doing things to increase their positive emotions ~ we also fill our own bucket.
But when we use that dipper to dip from others' buckets
by doing or saying things that decrease their positive emotions ; we diminish ourselves.
Like the cup that runneth over, a full bucket gives us a positive out- look and renewed energy.
Every drop in that bucket makes is stronger and more optimistic.
But an empty bucket poisons our outlook, saps our energy, and un- dermines our will.
That's why every time someone dips from our
bucket, it hurts us.
So we face a choice every moment of every day:
We can fill one another's buckets, or we can dip from them.
It's an important choice ~ one that profoundly influences our rela- tionships, productivity, health, and happiness.