Tuesday, September 17, 2013

you bossypants bucket dipper

mary claire came home upset today. a friend on the playground called her a bossypants bucket dipper. pretty catchy if you ask me, a cat's name waiting to happen. and my mary claire bossy?!  n.e.v.e.r. ;) she only wants everyone at all time following the rules. whether it's the teacher's rules, the school's, or hers ;) i remember teaching kids just like her. the child always picked to be the name taker. the child who takes a classmate's name if they breathe too heavily. we pray about these very trendies everyday. 

 anyway, my response to bossypants; stop being bossy, be a good friend, mind your own business and there's no such thing as a bucket dipper. 





well, slap me down and call me shorty, because there's a book about ALL about bucket dippers. and the entire fourth grade is reading it. bossypants mary claire proceeded to give me a very detailed summary of the theory. a fabulous twist on the golden rule! so i bought the book on amazon. LOVE it! now guess who is throwing out the term bucket dipper every single day? mama bossypants even though, when i was mary claire's age, i was a bossypants too. my sister will agree. thanks to this lesson, those two words stop mary claire in her tracks.

enjoy a summary of the theory... and i just happened to have summer pictures to illustrate the story.


The Theory of the Dipper and the Bucket

Each one of us has an invisible bucket.
It is constantly emptied or filled, depending on what others say or do to us.
When our bucket is full, we feel great. 
When it is empty, we feel awful.
Each of us has an invisible dipper. 
When we use that dipper to fill other people's buckets 
by saying or doing things to increase their positive emotions ~ we also fill our own bucket.


But when we use that dipper to dip from others' buckets 
by doing or saying things that decrease their positive emotions ; we diminish ourselves.
Like the cup that runneth over, a full bucket gives us a positive out- look and renewed energy. 
Every drop in that bucket makes is stronger and more optimistic.



But an empty bucket poisons our outlook, saps our energy, and un- dermines our will. 
That's why every time someone dips from our
bucket, it hurts us.
So we face a choice every moment of every day:
 We can fill one another's buckets, or we can dip from them.
It's an important choice ~ one that profoundly influences our rela- tionships, productivity, health, and happiness.

2 comments:

The 1st of May said...

My own little bossypants is also learning about filling buckets. One of the early weeks of school I lost my cool in the car and she started dramatically sobbing about how her bucket was EMPTY! and would I PLEASE! fill it! So Jay and I worked together to fill up that bucket...

A low moment for me, but so thankful for this book that helps kids express these "feeling" emotions...and helps parents realize that when you loose it, you not only have to apologize, but you've got to build those little spirits back up!

Charles and Angela McCall said...

You.had.pictures.from.the.summer.that.went.perfectly.with.the.story. O.M.G.

:) Love it!!

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